Our urge to achieve
Last week I danced Kizomba (an Angolan dance) with a friend. Dancing is always more difficult for the man as he has to lead. My friend was annoyed with himself, because he didn’t remember the exact steps, trying them over and over again. At some point it came with pressure and force. It had to work out well. Whereby the fun got lost.
Yesterday I didn’t have a good day. I was tired, less concentrated than usual and I felt as if I didn’t achieve the maximum that I was usually able to. These days are always difficult to accept for me, as I usually want to accomplish as much as I can as perfectly as possible. I didn’t have any plans for the evening yet and I was thinking about how to spend my night as good as possible to “fix” my tired and somewhat down mood.
Isn’t it possible to just let go of this urge of achievement? Getting tired of my own thoughts I was glad that I was aware of this pattern, because at least it is a first step to break it. Cooking mindfully while listening to some music made me realize that what I really needed was doing nothing this evening, giving myself some me time.
A Tanzanian friend said to me “it is better just to plan for one activity, than you are sure that you will be able to make it”.
Eckhart Tolle, famous for his book “the power of now” states that all that we need is already here in the present moment. So no need to achieve anything…
A quote that I like is “it is not about the destination, it is about the journey”.
I hope it inspires you! Have great journeys this summer and enjoy all the way!
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